Part 2: Why You Should Write Letters to Yourself.

Part 2: Why You Should Write Letters to Yourself.

If you’re here from my previous post, welcome back! Today I wanted to share a few more tips when writing letters to your future self. I also share excerpts of letters I’ve received over the years!

Tip 1: Stop over-thinking.

When I first started writing these letters, I’d worry about whether it was structured correctly. I picked apart what I wrote, deleted and re-typed.

Don’t be like me when I started. Stop over-thinking!

The aim of the game is to express yourself and your emotions without a filter!

Tip 2: Don’t stop at your own inbox.

Send a letter to a loved one. I haven’t tried this yet, but it could be a great way to connect with others.

Whether the person lives abroad, interstate or in the same city, it could be an interesting way to delve into memories, conflicts and joyful moments.

You could even find a writing buddy! I have seen this across platforms and it could be a new “pen pal” set-up!

Tip 3: Celebrate the wins in life.

Venting can be cathartic for many of us. However, if we focus too much on negativity and pain, it can create an unpleasant atmosphere both in our minds and when in community with others.

Remember to celebrate the good stuff! Even if it doesn’t seem super important, mention it in your letter. You’d be surprised how much that can boost your mood!

Tip 4: Learn to let go.

One of the benefits of sending a letter to the future was to practice the art of letting go.

I noticed in my behaviour that I could easily hold-on to bad memories, and replay scenarios in my head. I knew it wasn’t healthy but the habit was hard to break.

I made a conscious effort to say what needed to be said, took a deep breath and released the emotion.

The Good, The Bad, The Ugly.

Below are excerpts of letters I’ve received over the years. A little vulnerability might help others take the next step in either writing or finally being honest about their emotions. Either way, if it helps just ONE person, then I know it was worth it!

 “I really hope you’ve found purpose in the small, slow, tedious moments. and if you’re still trying, then good! keep trying! 🙂” – July 2015

My impatience is real. If I weren’t working then it’d be the bomb.com. I don’t know how to cope with study and work… anyway I hope you are well, Angela. Keep your head high. Reach out if you need to.” – August 2015

Look after yourself. Remember those that matter. We all have a place in this world! And change is constant. Be open to life’s challenges and welcome love in. Here’s to you; for strength, courage, laughter and light. – August 2015

All of a sudden I would feel detached. Not there, not feeling anything. Numb. I’m so so angry. I’m hurting. I don’t know how to release it or what to do. I shouldn’t dwell but right now I’m still trying to process everything. I don’t know if I/we can overcome this.” – October 2015

Oh gosh this bed it feels so cold,
My head was led by the lies you told.
But to this day my heart you stole,
In a bind left behind waiting for your call
.” (Pour Me Out, He Is We) November 2015 I sent myself lyrics.

What scares me though, is the future. What if I wake up and feel different about everything? What if this course isn’t what I want? What if I don’t get this new job? Nothing I can change at this moment or exactly ‘work towards’ so I will quieten these thoughts.” – June 2016

Practice thankfulness. Even if it’s one thing. Fight through the darkness. You are strong. Your body is strong. Your legs carry you wherever you need to go. Your voice is loud to be open and honest to those around you. Your heart is big and beats sure. There is beauty in everything. Always seek the beauty. – May 2017

I hope these tips were helpful and reading a few excerpts gave you an idea of what you might write about! It doesn’t have to be perfect – just honest!

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Mindful Meditation

Mindful Meditation

What is it?

Mindful meditation is a practice that trains the mind to focus on the present moment, without judgement. Being aware of your surroundings, thoughts and feelings. It can be practiced on your own, in groups or during retreats. Exercises during a meditation session include focusing on the breath, exploring the senses like taste, smell, touch and sound.

My experience.

Generally speaking, I thought I was quite self-aware. However, until I started using mindful meditation, I realised how much I could benefit from such a practice.

Rewind two years. I noticed that my heart would palpitate out of nowhere, constantly feeling that something bad was going to happen. I was exhausted all the time and found it difficult to sleep. I stumbled upon a channel on YouTube that posted guided meditations. The comments seemed to rave on about how this channel helped them through many tough times. I thought, if so many of these comments were saying it helped them, why not give it a try? During the day, I’d listen to these voice-overs to ‘escape’ the bustling world around me. I would sit in my car, just to be alone and listen. I learned to focus on my breath. I also learned grounding techniques, thanks to a counsellor I was seeing at the time.

Although I was working through functioning during the day, I was still struggling to sleep at night. So I decided to listen to guided meditations. This was the best decision I made! Within thirty minutes or less, I’d fall asleep! My phone would be left charging overnight, while the rest of the meditation video played through. However, if you feel safer in doing so, turn off electrical devices just before drifting off to sleep.

9 times out of 10, mindful meditation allowed me to have a deep, restful sleep! Finally.

Fast forward to today. I still use these meditations to sleep at night. Now, I am going to try and practice mindful meditation in the mornings – for extra motivation and focus!

Where do I start?

Personally, I would find channels/podcasts that are popular and have good feedback. Not all channels may appeal to you, so find one that you connect with.

I frequently visit a YouTube channel created by Michael Sealey. He has an array of videos targeting anxiety, depression, chakra cleansing and over-thinking to name a few. His voice to me, is very grounding, making me feel calm and at ease.

Mindful meditation can encourage self-compassion, slowly changing the judgemental tones we sometimes find ourselves using in our heads. You know that critical voice, always making us feel unnecessarily bad about ourselves/actions? Yep, that one. Change that voice and it’ll change your thinking for the better!

The other day, I downloaded an iPhone app called “Calm”. It’s great, because it has different ‘topics’ like mindful eating, mindfulness at work, 7 days of calm as well as many others. So far, I have found it very helpful for focus. It’s helped me feel more motivated in the mornings! Be aware that some topics are locked as it requires a yearly subscription fee.

From YouTube channels, smartphone applications to podcasts, there are many options out there for you to try.

Benefits of Mindfulness

According to a study conducted at Oxford University in England, mindfulness (coupled with cognitive therapy) has been said to reduce symptoms of chronic depression.

According to a study conducted at UCLA in America, mindfulness meditation could be a factor in improved memory and focus. They found that those who had been meditating long-term had more ‘folds’ in the brain’s cortex, suggesting improved information processing and the formation of memories.

In day-to-day life, mindfulness meditation can help reduce stress and anxiousness. It can also raise your self-awareness and help you to recognise thoughts and feelings that may or may not be serving you. Check-in with yourself, from time to time. Make time for self-inventory.

It’s not a smooth journey, but it is a path worth exploring for better mental health and well-being!

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If you’d like to learn more, I’ve listed links below:

Applications to download:

  • Calm
  • Mt. Focused (for study)
  • Headspace

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A lot of us, we feel that meditation is about silence. No, it is about awareness. – Ralph Smart

Let go of what no longer serves you.

You are not your past. 

Namaste.

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